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How self reflection increases your self awareness?

How self reflection increases your self awareness?

Self reflection helps to identify your emotions, actions and behaviors in any situation that you may face. which improve your self awareness and resilience. however Being busy in life and its ups and downs make us neglect our own self!

With life and work pressures, stress increase and affect our daily routine until it becomes a routine by itself to experience continuous stress. A bad meeting, a crucial conversation, bills need to be paid, and so on. That initiates the inner Self-talk starts which leads to stress.

Stress leads to emotional and physical disorders such as; depression, anxiety, insomnia, headaches and more!

What is Self awareness?

Self awareness is simply giving time to get along with yourself. Seeing yourself in life as if you were another person observing you. It is about focusing on the reality of your behavior and not on the story you tell yourself about yourself.

What is self reflection?

One of the reflection definitions; Serious thought or consideration.

Self-reflection-in simple words- looking at yourself from a mirror to assess your behavior, feelings, emotions, and reaction regarding an event.

Why self reflection is important for your self awareness?

Self-awareness is important to manage and permanently change your life. Regular practice of self-reflection can help you take the right actions to achieve your goals in the future.

The goal of self-awareness is to feel relaxed, happy and lives your life in calmness. It is to learn and know about yourself. Self-reflection considered an essential learning tool about yourself.

How to practice self reflection?

As I said you can and should apply self-reflection in every aspect of your life. However, I advise my clients in life and executive coaching session to start with 10min a day then gradually increase it when it becomes part of your inner system to reach the level that you do reflect right after the event or situation you been though. I will give you six simple questions you can start with;

  • What is the issue?
  • What did I felt, seen and heard?
  • How did I react?
  • What was the impact and outcome of my reaction?
  • How could I have reacted differently?
  • What my reaction will be in a similar future issue?

Final thoughts:

Being in control of your mind and body is an important factor to reach any goal you set for yourself, hence have is a strong self awareness is an essential skill you should build and empower. I help my clients during life coaching, executive coaching and career coaching in Dubai, KSA, Egypt to excel self reflection.

Start today to observe yourself and reflect, I recommend recording your self-reflection using writing, voice or video recording tool. That makes it simple to retrieve it in the future. You can use the Modelawer app to set a goal with your reflection outcomes in order to stay aware and reminded. Start with 10 min a day preferred to be evening time and in a relaxed quiet place to avoid any distraction and gradually start to repeat reflections through-out the day.

What is Self awareness and how it reduces stress!

What is Self awareness and how it reduces stress!

In nutshell

We don’t spend time with ourselves for ourselves!

You are Scrolling down on Instagram and see a photo of food and that trigger “WOW, I am hungry”. But what triggers the feeling of being stressed in you? What triggers the anxiety in you?

When suddenly you remember a bad meeting you been into today, a crucial conversation you had with your boss, pending report you did not finish today, financial issues you are facing and so on.

When those thoughts pop-up in mind, what happens next? Self-inner talk starts, and a long dialog starts to take place between you and your self, a small control tower in your brain called hypothalamus decides to send out the order; the stress hormones!

Stress leads to sleepless nights, exhaustion, excessive worry, lack of focus, and irritability. Even physical symptoms – like rapid heart rate, muscle tension, and headaches

If you let yourself with the flow and did not stop to think about all this, you are putting yourself on autopilot mode and allowing those thoughts, behavior and reactions to control you.

How to reduce stress and avoid anxiety?

Ask yourself what triggers the stress in you?  What initiates those thoughts and inner talk? How do you feel in that state? How your body reacts? and that what is called Self-awareness.

What is self awareness?

 Self-awareness is simply giving time to get along with yourself Understanding your personality, your values, your relationships, and your beliefs. Self-awareness includes understanding how you process your experiences. Ability to manage the self and its feelings, reactions, habits, and behaviors

Why self awareness is important?

Self awareness is one of the most life fundamentals and the most ignored one as well.

It is the awareness of your body responses, thinking patterns and thoughts, including feelings, desires and the way you react. Plus, and most importantly how these relate to each other – awareness of how the mind-body connection reacts with the external world.

As I mentioned if your mind reacts to thoughts in pilot mode, then they control you! If you want to control them, you should focus and identify the triggers as well as how your mind processes them?

Start with the stress and anger moment. Think about;

  • what made me stress?
  • What I have thought about it?
  • What and when this situation happened?
  • Who is involved?
  • Is it one-off or repeatedly happening?
  • How I reacted at this moment? And keep digging deep!

Discovering the trigger and how your mind reacts until it gives the order to be stressed is the self-awareness.

Example, while you are at home watching a movie, then all of the sudden you feel your body getting tense, heartbeat increases slowly, there is a vague image hits your mind about that bad meeting you had with your boss a few days back and in seconds you get stressed and all your mood changes! Let’s reverse it;

  • what made me stress?  That image about the meeting
  • What I have thought about it? How unfair my boss is, he never listens to me, I can’t express my thoughts with him, I cannot even defend my point, and so on
  • What and when this situation happened? A meeting with my boss four days back
  • Who is involved? My boss
  • Is it one-off or repeatedly happening? Yes
  • How I reacted at this moment? I freeze, my body got so tensed

Can you see how things became more logical, now what should you do?

Practice self reflection decides what is in your control and what is not and get yourself together to let go.

How to practice self awareness?

Look at yourself independently

See yourself as you really are! Though identifying and writing the following Self-perceptions;

  • Things you are good at
  • Things need to be improved.
  • Things you are proud of.
  • Your childhood and what made you happy back then.
  • Seek honest feedback from someone you truly trust, about what he/she sees and feels you?

In the end, you will come out with a fresh new perspective on yourself and your life.

Keep a journal. 

It sounds an old fashion, but it is proven to be a mind relive and I recommended to my clients in life coaching sessions, writing almost everything you want in a journal relive the mind of those ideas and free up space for new information.

I advise my coaching client to a specific time on the day to write down their thoughts, feelings, ups, and downs for the day. This will lead to self-reflection

Tip: you can use a journal apps which most of them has a password to keep your data protected

Define and set your goals

Dreams without goals are just dreams! That stays in our mind and keep it busy without directions or vision. Turn your dreams or even small things you want to accomplish in the short and long term into a defined SMART goal and break them into sub-goals that make you taste and celebrate small wins. Setting and achieving goals is a lengthy process, so you Download Modealwer app that helps you in creating your life goals, career goals, leadership goals, productivity goals, financial goals, and stay on track. Also,

Self reflection

In order to have self-awareness, performing self reflection is a must. Again I advise my clients during the life or executive coaching sessions to preform self-reflection at least once a day and gradually increase to be done right after an even take place that they feel they need to reflect. For example, an argument took place with their spouse or tough meeting at work. Self-reflection applies to you as a person in any situation you face in life and or as a leader in your organization.

Final thoughts

Magic won’t happen overnight; self-awareness is a process just any other process that needs time and commitment. During this process if you got hit by those inner thoughts which you aware it will lead you to stress, change your body state stand up, take a walk, shake your body, etc. start a positive inner talk, tell yourself it does not matter, it does not worth, go more into positive talks where the sky is the limit! That may work especially if you started before a significant emotion take control.

What Is a SMART Goal? And how to make your goals SMART?

What Is a SMART Goal? And how to make your goals SMART?

All of us have dreams. We dream of a better life, a healthy life, job advancement, business growth and lots more. However, dreams without goals are just dreams!

Setting goals for things you dream to reach in life is a must, however, you need to ensure that it won’t end up as just an unfulfilled dream.

The more your goal is clear and defined the more you will reach it, on the other hand, the more your goal is vague and general the more it will end as just a dream!

For example, I want to lose weight Vs I am overweight with 15Kg and I want to lose 5KG by end of this month. Which sounds clearer and well defined, first of the second statement?

Vague goals lead you to endless loops of hopes, ups-and-downs, work hard and reach nowhere and end with frustrations.

What is a SMART goal?

In 1981 SMART as an acronym came to life in issue or management review by George T Doran. It is attributed to Peter Drucker’s management by objectives concept.

It is a way to make sure that your goals are clear and reachable, SMART acronym stands for:

  • Specific (simple, sensible, significant).
  • Measurable (meaningful, motivating).
  • Achievable (agreed, attainable).
  • Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).
  • Time bound (timely, time-based, time-limited, time/cost, time-sensitive).

SMART goal has erupted in the corporate world; however, it applies in every type of goal we set.

Let’s have a look at the above example:

  • I want to lose 5KG: Specific, Measurable and Realistic
  • By the end of this month: Timely

How to Set a SMART goal?

1. Specific

SMART goal should be crisp clear otherwise you won’t be able to focus, this involves the related “W” questions, such as:

What specifically I want to achieve?

Who is involved in this goal?

Why do I want to archive this goal?

Example: I want to lose 5KG (not just lose weight)

2. Measurable

SAMRT goal should have a measurement tool. How will you know that you achieving the goal, if you don’t have a measurement tool? You need a measurement to assess progress and stay motivated. This involves the related “How” questions.

How much? How many? How I will know?

Example: I will weigh myself every week and expected to lose 2 KG first week and a KG each following week.

3. Achievable

SAMRT goal should be reachable. Yes, the sky is the limit! But this for your dreams. However, in goals, you need to set achievable milestones. Stretch your limits but make your goal reachable. Follow the baby-steps concept and set sub-goals if needed. Nothing happens overnight.

What resources do I need?

What skills do I need?

Do I need support?

What is out of my control?

Example: what is more achievable losing 15Kg in a month or three months with commitment?

Tip:

While setting a goal, be aware if someone else or specific circumstances may have control over it, if yes, define clearly what is and what is not in your control?

4. Relevant

SMART goals should be realistic. This step is about ensuring that your goal is important to you and relevant. It also involves ensuring that you will be committed to it.

Is it really important?

Is this the right time?

What would I feel after achieving goal of my dream?

How would I stay committed?

Example: being overweight is affecting my health and appearance negatively, I am tired of this, I want to lose weight, I want a better life and I will do it.

5. Time bound

SAMRT goal should have a target date. Without a target date, you are leaving your goal subject to procrastinating and mostly it won’t happen. A deadline makes you focused and works toward accomplishment. It answers the “When” question.

When I will achieve it?

What are the milestones?

Example: Lose 5KG by end of the month.

Tip:

While setting your time plan, take into consideration everything else in your plate, distractions and out of control factors.

Final thoughts:

Wish list remains a wish list and dreams remain a dream unless you set a SMART goal and remain committed to achieving it.  When I work with a client in a life coaching session or Executive coaching session, I ensure that my client has set a clear and SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Timely) goal. Setting a goal is the first step in achieving what you dream for, however, the way down is not easy, you stay committed, focus and measure the progress and completion down the road.

Start today and turn your wishes into action plan goal using the pattern and tips.

Why use a coach?

Why use a coach?

Can’t I figure this out on my own? Well, maybe. But it’s more likely you’ll spend years trying to get to the place a coach can get you in weeks or months. And without the coach, you might not make it at all.

The specialized training and experience certified coaches have supercharged your growth and learning. We know how to get to the bottom of issues and provide motivation and education for you to create real change in your life. We don’t settle for answers that are safe and comfortable and keep you stuck. Coming from the outside, we bring a view of you and your life that you, your family or friends can’t see. Whether it’s car maintenance, computer programming or brain surgery, you want the experts. It’s the same with your life.

Once you decide to engage a coach what are the specific benefits?

Recognizing your purpose
At times of transition, it’s normal to feel a bit lost or confused, wondering what direction to head. Being unsure of what you have to contribute to the world can leave you feeling adrift in uncertainty. You see self-confidence and success in others and wish you had more of that.

Discovering one’s life purpose is both easy and hard. It’s easy because the answer lies within yourself, waiting for you to recognize it. It’s hard because weeding through the varying messages we get (and give to ourselves) confuses our search.

Through coaching, you can sort through those messages, find what’s true and what’s not, and begin to live a life of clarity and direction. And as your coach, I’ll be your partner on that journey.

Rediscovering your passion
Sometimes life can seem like you’re living on a hamster wheel, continually going through the same motions day after day: get up, go to work, cook, clean, sleep, then start over again tomorrow without seeming to arrive anywhere new. Life can seem a bit mundane, tedious, uninspired. Sometimes you can forget what excites or moves you. Maybe you’ve even lost sight of what you truly love.

Coaching can help you rediscover your passion and bring the color back to your life. It can rebuild your connection to that deep knowing within yourself and help you live your daily life from that space. It can put what you truly love at the center of everything you do. It can help you live an inspired life.

Reigniting your energy
Maybe you already know what you want for this phase in your life but find something keeps cropping up that prevents it from coming true. Maybe you know there’s much more that you’re capable of but just need the opportunities to show it. Maybe you feel burdened by the obstacles between you and your dreams

Coaching can help you kick the obstacles you face in your life out of the way. It can help you find the opportunities you need to unleash the potential that is you. And it can turn your feelings of weariness into vigor and radiance. Really.

Rekindling your hope
When uncertainty and obstacles abound, the world can seem empty and hopeless. It can appear there’s no way out of the ruts in which you find yourself. The future looks bleak. Maybe you can’t even envision a future. Know that it doesn’t have to be this way, that everything really is possible, and that I’m here to help.

Your future is in your hands. You don’t need to put up with the status quo any longer. All you need to do is take the first step in creating the life you want.

Set up a free exploratory consultation with me now and open the door to your new life.

Freshman Year and 20 Funny College Years Survival Tips

Freshman Year and 20 Funny College Years Survival Tips

Congratulations, you’ve made it!

You’ve finished high school in Dubai and finally stepping into the college world and while you’re reading this you may feel ecstatic yet awestricken; Questions start to storm in your head: Is freshman year of college in abroad hard? [Highlight please] What is freshman year of college like in Dubai? [Highlight please] What I will do during freshman year of college? [Highlight please] How I will start? [Highlight please] Perhaps, the first thing that springs to your mind- what classes should I take in my freshman year of college or should I look for a job?; or feelings such as “maybe I am tired of being a kid, tired of school life”; “I am an adult now and I should be free and depart”. Take it easy and hold your horses. Yes, it is your first great big step into adulthood, however ever wondered why it is called “freshman year”? Basically, it is as I said your first phase in the existence of independent adulthood, it is during the time, you will start your “fresh” “first time” moments, you have to learn more about the world around you especially living in UAE and that what you do in your first year of college will have big impact on the rest of your college years and rest of your life. What defines adulthood by the way? The planner, organizer, analyzer and whatnots… The part of you that urge you to think logically and rationally; The part of you that direct you to decide independently and meticulously; The stage when you are no longer considered a “minor” as commonly known as 18 years of age. Tick your imagination. Can you picture the beauty of your adult self? There’s more to freedom rather than the word alone. Comprehend. Contemplate. Hence, focus and building the WOW adult in you. College year is your first world [transition phase] that you will build the adult in you, it does not mean being random, independent and spontaneous like “study hard, party harder”. It means balance, learn how to balance, manage to learn and endure whatever life brings. How do you survive a freshman year of college? Here are some of college tips that shall guide you a heap. Don’t fraught and avoid pitfalls.
  1. Always go to Class. Attending classes regularly and having notes shall make you better focused and reach excellent disciplinary level.
  2. Know your Professors. They’re there to help you, visit them, and build rapport, converse about a book you read or ask for extra Martial and ask for help implicitly. Mingle and start networking. Remember life is about networking.
  3. Act as an Adult now. Think, analyze, observe, gather information and make a logical decision. You may make wrong ones but we all do, don’t worry just learn from mistakes and move on. This will make you competent and skilled person.
  4. Connect with Career Hubs. As important it is to connect with professors while building your network, it is so important to enhance your network with career advisers; this will be an indispensable resource in the years to come.
  5. Be active in Career fair. Don’t miss any of them, even if you’re first year College, trust me 4 years will just pass, so fast and you will find yourself searching for job. Hence visiting career fair, meeting and talking with recruiter swill give you great insights about the industry, the qualifications, and the physical showcasing yourself. Don’t forget, you are building your network.
  6. Internship [if offered will be great chance], don’t miss it. It will make things easier to get another next year and so on. It will build good professional connection and increase your network.
  7. Become Socially Active. Freshman year trap is like becoming isolated and overwhelmed, this absurd stance won’t help you at all. Instead become social, adults are social humans love to interact. Hence take a speech class to enhance your communication skills, join a club or sport team, participate in college activities preferably the organizational part, speak up in the class and express your opinion that will build your confidence.
  8. Explore your Campus. Don’t be lazy stop asking for information from your colleagues or friends, build the spirit of being GO-GETTER explore the city, be your own guide. Nothing is more gratifying in dauntlessly doing things firsthand.
  9. Be confident. Getting out of your comfort zone, and try new things. College is the greatest opportunity you’ll ever have for personal development.
  10. Get a Job. As tricky as it may seem, but I push you to try it, getting a part time job will build a lot in your Adult self, you will learn a lot of it and it will make you feel good when you start to earn. It will build the balance but most importantly if it won’t affect your studies. Be honest and true to yourself. Stop when you must. My advice is try to find a job the match your schedule, studies. Check your campus; ask for any summer orientation for incoming students.
  11. Family, family and family. I wish I can stress more in this point, stay in contact with your family, and never let physical distance results in separation. You need them more than you can imagine. They know you better than anyone else, hence be open to them and share everything. You never know when things go bad and help will be needed.
  12. School Friends. Don’t let them go easily; when things grow apart we tend to forget people who we used to love. Keep the connection you never know who is your true friends could be.
  13. Choose your New Friends carefully. Get connected to like-minded colleagues, this will help and empower you in your journey. Don’t allow toxic people in your life, they drain you energy and lead you off your road.
  14. The Library. Please read, Don’t Skip. It may sound boring or unreal to go to library and you find yourself dragged to it just to make a research paper, and say I have Google which is a Know-it-All. But going to library will build the following:
    1. Wide resources available more than you can imagine which then enhance your searching skills and build the analytic power in you and the pleasure of exploring and finding facts.
    2. It will empower the silence space, where you relax you mind and be able to focus, if you visit library on daily basis you will discover the core of what I say.
  15. In the Library – magazines, guides to local places, databases, leisure reading, videos, and of course, the books you need for your papers. Learn as much as you can about your library, as soon as you can. Talk with the librarians about the resources available in your field. Check out the resources you can access remotely so you don’t come up stuck when you realize you need one more reference in the middle of the night.
  16. Take it Easy. Stress won’t help trust me, take a no-study day, go for a walk, go to park, beach, etc. Time to charge your self-battery.
  17. Stay healthy. Make use of the gym, avoid junk food as much as you can, use public transportation, avoid caffeine, etc. It may sound silly but you are building yourself brand and having a good physical shape helps a lot.
  18. Be Organized. Keep your clothes clean and neat, keep your room tidy, put your alarm away from you reach to get up on time and stop being lazy.
  19. Embrace Technology. Use it for your future, build the new you, use social media as your communication to tell who you are, what you learn and what is your planned future, start from now and create your linked in profile.
  20. Create a Resume if you don’t already have one, this is your sales pitch, this is what recruiters read and build perception about you, hence create it from now and keep enhancing it.
Final Words to Ponder College Year is the first transformation stage in your life as an adult, focus on building yourself mentally and physically. Don’t underestimate the power of networking-be socially active, good communicator and an excellent speaker. Whether you will join college in a university in Dubai, UAE, and travelling back home or abroad my tips to you shall apply with a fine tune here or where and I wish you best of luck in your life.  

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